“My” Political candidate is not a perfect human being nor is “yours”. I am not entirely correct in all my conclusions, nor are you.

And no political party has ownership over what it means to be human, to have empathy, care for each other, to spread love & kindness, to be responsible toward all of humanity.

As we enter this general election in America I feel it is of so much importance to make these points, because it is so important to never loose site of our love for and obligation to each other, and the futures of ALL our children.

I have my political opinions as do you, but all I ask of and for each of you is that you truly spend the time and take the energy to calculate to the best of your ability what you can do, whom you can support to make this world as kind, inclusive, loving, sustainable and promising for our children and their children.

Also LOVE each other and spread joy, because we are all better able to see clearly when we are happy and surrounded by friends not isolated, angry, and scared. If we only lift each other up and let none of our friends, our fellow humans fall into hatred, fear or despair this world will certainly be a more beautiful place.


Beginning Anew

How about this as a starting point: We agree that we will never be xenophobic nationalists, that we will love each other, look out for one another, and treat each other with dignity regardless of our differences, that we do not wish to use guns to kill one another and that we wish to leave a healthy prospering natural world for future generations. The rest we can work out from there.


Love More

I have seen many posts today from people (loving, kind, thoughtful people) struggling to reconcile todays violence, and wavering with blaming religion or Islam for these acts. So I feel compelled to add my thoughts into the mix–Until we learn to love one another completely, to see our inate similarities, to celebrate our divine differences, to accept that violence will never mend whatever pain we feel inside, these things unfortunately will continue to happen…and my controversial two cents, I also think fewer weapons floating around might help, but regardless. I think this horrific propensity is a glitch in us humans , not simply our religions. Were that we were to ban religion I fear that we would simply find a different vehicle to vent these hatreds through (you know perhaps ’cause people believe in driving different cars then us 😉 ) In all seriousness until we get over the tendency to raise our own life’s worth above that of another, this sense of our own inherent righteousness and others wrongness, the thought that other means enemy, this will not end. In summary the only true remedy is long term and it is love…just my silly thoughts ❤


Call and Response

A few days ago I posted the quote:
“Love is the only way to rescue humanity from ills”
-Leo Tolstoy

And one of my wonderful, loving friends commented:
“I believe this wholeheartedly but unfortunately, in my experience, most don’t. I wish there was more empathy and tolerance and people not being so quick to judge. But then, I’m told I don’t live in the real world. I like my dream land.”

Here is my response to that :

And I would debate whomever said that to my last breath. The more I study and learn of all our actions as human beings, the more I see that the most enduring and successful acts are always those wherein we compromise the fewest ideals, wherein we account for and care for the greatest number of lives possible. In fact it is our failure to live up to those ideals that inevitably causes the downfall of any movement or individual actor. I believe if you scan through examples throughout history (and look for the long term, not short term results) this point will be well illustrated.

I suppose this question feels particularly pertinent to address at this moment in history when we as a human race are being challenged to evolve to the point where we realize our unbreakable bond to all our fellows. When we are being challenged to see that every time we try to avoid this responsibility it comes back at us one hundredfold. I actually don’t so much see a “migrant crises” or “climate change”, I see that I am part of a human race which keeps continuing to try to avoid coming to the inevitable realization that we are responsible to and for the whole of life, not simply our lone fraction, and unless and until we embrace that fact we will continue to manifest these disasters which force us to look.

And once again that whole statement could be summed up as “Love is the only way to rescue humanity from ills”.


A Book without a Face- forego the selfie, love the self

Funny paradox this is, attempting to communicate the wish to take myself out of the equation by writing about myself–life has its many ironies. I guess the main point is that I wish you to know that anything I post is truly for you, only for you, and I hope that if you click “like”, it is because that post speaks to or for some aspect of you. It’s hard to find the right words yet it’s important to me to share, that I believe Facebook can be a means of communicating without ego involved, just pure, direct communication without the bells and whistles. I know this can be true because I have seen it in so many of your wonderful loving, kind, selfless, posts and comments. In all honesty though, when it turns into anything else I just want to give myself a metaphorical scrub down, and then run far far away.

Given the number of posts (well pretty much only quotes, call a spade a spade) I’ve posted over the years you may be surprised to know that I would likely not hit a “like” button on Facebook as a whole.

Though I love you, I love the pictures of your babies, I love your words of wisdom, your tales of wonder, your causes, your passionate pleas, the support you show to one another, all of the pictures you’ve taken on your travels and I truly love that there exists a space where we can share these things …but that’s just it, I love your life, and I love life in general. I love that you are out in the world living it, not just home on your computer thinking about, critiquing or presenting it.

I love humanity, I love that we as humans can connect, not just virtually but deeply and profoundly with those all over the world— across language barriers, class barriers, social barriers, land locks and treacherous waters.

What I do not desire though is to turn this into a tool for idol worship or ego worship for branding or self-promotion. And I suppose I grow uneasy at it’s tendency to veer in that direction. In other words I do not want to feed any desire to be liked or “liked” or to otherwise take stock of my “worth”, and in fact the feeling that perhaps I have inadvertently entered into that game or am in anyway propagating it is what makes me wish to run far away.

In any case, these are very personal feelings, not judgements of anyone- I certainly believe everyone should feel out what is best for them. I suppose I am only attempting to shed what feels like false skin to me. Because I do like being able to check up on the well being of you all, because I do want to share those things which have given me some joy in the hopes that they might do the same for one of you, because I do wish for you to truly know that you are looked out for, looked after and appreciated for exactly who and what you are! And at the same time I wish to be completely free of what sometimes feels like a self-perpetuating, virtual-ego creating, machine. This message is anticlimactic I know, as I am not leaving Facebook in some dramatic effort to make my point, I simply wanted to shed some light on these thoughts and every once in a while I might throw out these words, as I would pebbles at some window, hoping eventually to shatter this facade…but always doing so with love and gratitude for your friendship and with wishes that perhaps something I share inspires you ❤



From what do you wish to be free?

In honor of Independence day I feel like sharing a small anecdote.

During my life I have spent much time around children, sometimes I was caring for those labeled as neglected, or troubled– coming from “difficult circumstances”, but in truth many of those children were still bright, alive and filled with hope, maybe bruised, but bouncing back. In fact across the years I think the child I felt the worst for, the one for whom my heart hurt, was a boy who did not feel free enough to use his own imagination. This 2 year old boy appeared to live a perfectly “privileged” life, and yet couldn’t play a single game of pretend. When we sang “the wheels on the bus” (that silly, often annoyingly memorable song) I would ask him and his classmates ”where they wanted the bus to go?” then we would imagine driving there, not only would he refuse to play, but he insisted on informing everyone that “we weren’t REALLY going anywhere so there was no point in the game” (he also told them that if they were bad they were going in “the box”…but no matter, just a note to all parents that nothing they do behind close doors stays there).

My point being that to me our ability to be free mentally, to envision how we wish reality to be, to escape the confines of what another or others dictate as truth. That is our greatest freedom. Put any of us in a physical box and we can imagine ourselves out of it, but take away our belief in our ability to escape, indoctrinate us to build that box mentally, even when none exists physically, and then we are truly trapped.

So I ask you once again by what do you feel bound and propose that you at least can take this first most crucial step of being free, that step one no one else has dominion over.

Oh and for the record— you can REALLY go anywhere you want to go.



Over this stretch wherein I have been experiencing some technical difficulties (i.e. wobbling etc.), I have received many beautiful messages of encouragement and love from you, and I wish for you to know how deeply these are felt and appreciated.

Please also know though that the reason these words are felt and appreciated so deeply is not because I am experiencing some great personal pain (I really couldn’t give two ferns about that, and I’d prefer you didn’t either), but because it is a truly beautiful thing to see such kindness and love in this world—This world needs all that love, humanity needs it, and while you are at it please shine it back at yourself too (know I’m shining it at you as well).

As for this physical glitchy thing or whatever I’ve been up to there, I do mean it when I say that for me it is just  a life trial to learn from, just another means of testing myself to see if, even through these new goggles, the glass still appears half full to me, and it does! Oh and in case your doubting my words, here’s just one short illustration of my silly tendencies: As a young girl when I chopped onions I would often begin to laugh hysterically at each chop, then when asked why, I claimed that chopping onions made me laugh instead of cry…See now of what I speak

In summary, this too is just an onion, most of us have to chop some sooner or later, and you know what they do add flavor…

And now back to the important things.


Please Laugh With Me*

*Warning-The following content though honest may at times sound absurdly self important. Adding of salt grains might be needed.

‘Tis true, I fall over, and it is an observable fact that seeing me put on my shoes or pick up a small object can be like watching a Stooge (or three), but please accept that this is more of a comedy then a tragedy and do not let your brow furrow, just laugh with me instead.

Glimpse through my eyes for a few ticks of the clock and you will see how very lucky I am. What I see is a world wherein everyone is dealing with trials and troubles, often ones much greater then mine, what I fail to see is why I should not bear mine with ease. What I see is that everything I experience is a chance to enhance my capacity for empathy and for understanding . What I don’t see is why I should be exempt from knowing pain when someone else is not.
And what I see, and thank my lucky stars for, is that I live in circumstances which, and around people who, make it possible for me to continue to live this life– I see this everyday and in so many ways. I see that this should be a world wherein everyone can say the same, though too many live in conditions in which someone like me would not make it through the day. I see that I would truly suffer, like the many who do everyday, if I had to walk for miles to a well to get water, had to run for my life in a war, fight for my survival in a refugee camp or scavenge through garbage dumps for food. So there, I’m a barrel of laughs…Ok I admit that maybe there are times when it preferable not to laugh at me, but they are few and far between.

It is also true that at times I have felt blue (ooh I rhymed!), and times I have hidden myself away, but this is mainly because I find it hard to tolerate knowing that I have caused anyone any sadness, worry or heartbreak. So laugh at me instead and I can share a laugh along with you.

Remember not to ever mistake my life as a sad tale, ’cause if you know me at all, then you know that what I truly want is to bring joy to as many of you as I can, and you also know my biggest fear is that I will fail to do so. And so I ask you to be truly happy and help others to be so too, and in turn I promise you I will do the same…that is while laughing of course!


Your Right To Be Wrong

From my high office of Average Personhood, as acting Opinion-generator of No Consequence and by the power vested in me by Myself Alone,

I hereby grant thee…

The right to be wrong, to stumble, to bumble, to make wrong turns, to change direction and then change it again, to get lost along the way, to be a constant work in progress. I recommend possibly even wearing a sign warning that you are “under construction”.

I say this because I believe that in order to live a life of any value whatsoever we must: learn, grow, change our minds, expand our point of view, throw out the old and start anew. Perhaps pick it up again, dust it off and reclaim it, look at it with fresh eyes, maybe only in order to discard it once more.

And if we are always learning and growing there is no way we can look back at our choices and feel we would make the same ones given what we now know (I’m sidestepping the notion that we would have to make those mistakes to wind up where we are now, we’ve seen “Back to the Future”). Of course there was a rational, a logic behind why we came to the conclusion that we did, but this doesn’t make it the best conclusion— I like to think of it thus wise, there’s a rational behind why every person has brought to pass anything and everything ever done and I certainly don’t agree with ALL of it.— So to live is to make mistakes.

And yet we live in a society where we too often shame each other for ever being wrong. “That person said something wrong “, “This person wore something wrong “, “They were wrong and therefore will never be right henceforth!”. So we learn to hide our mistakes, deny our miscalculations, and in public we defend the rightness of our deeds to the death, even if behind closed doors we secretly question them.

I fear that as time goes by this need for “rightness” causes us to isolate from one another more and more. As we discover all the ways that we have been mistaken, we associate our wrongness with others. We point fingers and evade certain people’s “wrongness spreading influence”, and out of embarrassment, we avoid being around others who we’ve “egg-faced” ourselves in front of. We fear appearing in public because we might say or do something wrong and we revel in the “wrongnessess” others have committed, because by comparison our wrongness seems much less severe .

But what if we stopped running from our wrongness? What if we welcomed those times we notice the wrong, because they give us the opportunity to be more right in the future? How about we launch fewer criticisms at ourselves, at each other? Instead we could ask the critics to please place it in the suggestion box (in fact I might just wear one around my neck).

So I say we stop defending how right we are despite all of the evidence mounting up against us, and instead defend our right to be wrong— this too often neglected right. ‘Cause when I mull it over, I can hardly think of anything which has more successfully defeated us, then our own failure to alter course when it is called for (ask the navigators of the Titanic) .

I suppose inherent in what I’m saying is the belief that there is no one right way to go about living. I for one don’t know the rules to this thing we’re calling life (and whenever I get too comfortable in the delusion that I do, circumstances seem to change entirely). Someone might know A way, even a very good way, perhaps the best, but that does not mean that they know THE way. Which yes, means we can never “go on automatic pilot”, simply following along in someone else’s steps. Our steps will always belong uniquely to us, so we must allow for the possibility of missteps, otherwise we are safe only in standing still and that’s a very precarious position to remain in ( I’ve only ever seen the odd Yogi who can pull that off with any success ).

To put it succinctly, I think we are in the process of figuring this whole “life” thing out together, so why not simply compare notes? Right? But I’m quite happily wrong.


Thanks For The Icy Buckets

An open letter of thanks to the ice-bucketed ones and my take for those who question the purpose of the gesture.

I don’t have ALS I have MS, a different acronym, a different set of letters to describe my obstinate body, and yet still, every time I see a silly video of someone dumping icy water on their head, I first smile and then cry–that cathartic kind of cry born from not really knowing that you were sad until the moment happiness sneaks up on you.

Firstly, that is a ridiculous thing to admit to. Secondly, I think that I respond this way because, though I don’t like to talk about it, I so often feel really different and really stupid. Because I go about my days around all of these “normal people” so I attempt to behave “normally” too, but much of the time all I am focussed on is trying not to fall or drop something, or break something as I am falling or dropping something. Because I, like most of us, hate sympathy, but find it hard to always come up with ways to make others laugh at the stumbles or get past the canes, walkers, wheels and speech synthesizers (that’s the cool way that Stephen Hawking speaks).

Now again, I don’t have ALS, but I do feel a kind of kinship with others in the failing motoneuron family. Added to that is the fact that I, like so many, have looked up to Stephen Hawking for my whole life and more recently have found that his being such a valuable participant in this world, even though he too can’t nimbly or gracefully maneuver a body, is a constant source of encouragement to keep fighting to accomplish something worthwhile. 

So to the point, these short silly videos– not of crying or pleading for those “sad, sickly, victims of this horrible disease”, but of shared laughter, fun, silliness, perhaps a bit of uncomfortable chilliness and a “hey, I care and you should too” message– say something profoundly meaningful, they say that all these friends, colleagues, strangers, people we respect and look up to care about this thing too– this thing which we might mistakenly think no one else sees, this seemingly lonely struggle– and not only that, but all these people aren’t running away from, looking down on, criticizing, cringing or crying about it, they are in fact willing to look a little silly too just to show that they care.

So there it is, and as uncomfortable as voicing the personal bits are, I too am willing to deal with momentary shivers to express some much deserved gratitude to all those whose teeth chattered for the cause, cause I’m thinking that perhaps I am not alone in experiencing these feelings. Beyond all of that, isn’t it simply a beautiful thing to see a silly game, with a noble purpose participated in by so many? Isn’t it in brief moments like these that we see what makes humanity eternally lovable?